• Tara Humphrey

Getting to know you, getting to know more about you (“The King and I”)

Updated: Jun 7, 2018

In today's blog, the focus is on striking the balance between maintaining our professionalism but also being open, authentic and bringing more of the personal side of ourselves to work.

In the past, I always prided myself in striving to be the ultimate professional and tried hard to leave my home life at home.

I held the view that I am paid to do a job and assumed that no one wants to hear about my; 3 kids, the crazy challenges my husband does (the latest being running 200 miles in 10 days), my exploits up Kilimanjaro, the books I read and podcasts I listen to.

However, sharing little snippets of my life recently, has really improved;

  • my working relationships

  • my performance (as I feel more comfortable that my clients know me a little better);

  • and enforced my purpose, as not only do I support NHS organisations but I am a regular recipient of the service, as my middle child lives with a long term kidney condition and my youngest was diagnosed with Type 1 diabetes on Xmas day (2017).

However, I came across a Harvard Business Review Article written by Lisa Rosh and Lynn Offermann who caution that you should Be Your Self but Carefully, and gave examples of people; admitting weaknesses, making inappropriate disclosures or talking endlessly about themselves. I agree, we of course need a filter in a professional setting , but letting yourself shine through a little:

  • shows people you are human and have a life outside of work

  • enables you to identify things you have in common with your colleagues and build a rapport

  • accelerates your connection with people and supports you to build relationships faster

  • helps you to draw on personal experiences that may help you in your work setting

Also, along with helping people to get to know you a little better, make sure you make the time to show an interest in others and try to remember a few things ready for the next time you see them.

Whether you are in an office environment, attending a networking event or workshop, the same advice applies. Let your guard down and show people a little more of who you are, what you are about and see both your happiness and performance increase😊.

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